7 Tips To Help You Decide When To Say Yes And When To Say No

In part one of our “No. Is A Complete Sentence” series we talked about our motives when it comes to saying yes when we should, or want to, say no.

In this post, we’re covering the decision-making process of determining when to say yes and when to say no.

saying no when you have a chronic illness

We all want to say yes to relaxation, healthy habits, fun with family and friends, etc. – but there are only so many hours in a day and so many spoons in our drawers.

So what do we do? We take the time to think through our options and make a decision on what we’re going to agree to and what we’re not.

Here are 7 things to consider as you make your decision:

  1. Saying no because you just need time for self-care and relaxation is a VALID reason!

  2. Stay true to yourself, your beliefs and your life goals. Saying yes to something you should say no to compromises your integrity and causes stress.
  3. Look at your calendar and weigh the cost of saying yes. Will it put too much physical stress on your body that will stop you from something else you have planned. And remember, overdoing it can force you into a few days of pain or increased symptoms.
  4. Saying yes to one thing means you have to say no to another. You can only be in one place at a time. Make sure that place is right where you should be.
  5. Is there someone else that could step up? Your “no” may allow them the opportunity to grow as an individual.
  6. If the only reason you’re saying yes is because of guilt and obligation you better say no. This will only lead to added stress on your part because you’re doing something you clearly don’t want to do.
  7. Saying no can help you avoid future resentment of the person asking. You’re the only one who knows what is best for you and your family and what other obligations you have going on. Don’t leave that decision to someone else that doesn’t have all the background info.


What decision are you trying to make right now?
Which one of these seven things is helping you make a confident decision?



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3 thoughts on “7 Tips To Help You Decide When To Say Yes And When To Say No

  1. What a wonderful concept of giving ourselves top billing and the ability to just say no using the above as great boundaries. Thanks so much. I think I’ve started implementing most of them if not physically, at least mentally. But having it in black and white is priceless and helpful! Yes, no is a complete sentence in itself. We have always been such people pleasers–some of us–to the detriment of ourselves. I know I was that way in the past. Of course, it had hampered me from staying balanced and healthy.

    • I’ve been that way too much too Julie! The longer I’ve been ill the more I realize the importance of saying no. If I burn myself out I’m no good to anyone. I think I’m finally allowing myself to realize that saying no to some things means I can say yes to my family when they need me.