When April Showers Of Depression Lead To New Life And New Projects

It seems to get the best of me every year – April. I’ve written about it before here, here and here. To sum it up I’ve lost 5 immediate family members during the month of April, years apart, but all in that month.

So each year as April rolls around depression covers me like a deep fog.

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I thought I’d try a new tactic this year. I decided to go easy on myself and not try to focus on my feelings or “fixing” them – I needed to just be.

I needed to be ok with the fact that I was sad and I needed to come to terms with the fact that there are both joys and sorrows in life. One wouldn’t make such an impact on our lives without the other.

Self-care became my main focus. I read a bit more and watched tv a bit more. I stayed off social media as much as possible – only getting on for my blog related accounts and not my personal accounts. I spent time listening to podcasts of sermons and uplifting praise and worship music.

As the month dragged on I realized how much I needed to focus my thoughts on things that were positives.

I meditated on Philippians 4:8:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Whenever negative thoughts crept in I quoted the verse and would direct my thinking to something I knew to be true, then noble, then right, and so on. It helped. A lot. Even on the days when I had to start with the truth as basic as, “I’m alive and breathing.”

I also decided I needed a new exciting venture. I had been praying for quite a while about a particular idea I had in mind and I thought God was letting me know that now was a good time to being. This is where my special project comes in!

I think too often we can lose our identity in our illness. We feel more like a patient and less like a woman, mom, wife, friend, etc. I love this blog and I’m going to continue writing here, but I knew I needed something else that didn’t leave me constantly focusing on my illness and the impact it has on my life. I need to be spending time on the others aspects of my life too.

Next Saturday, the 13th of May, I’m kicking off another blog. That’s right! I may be crazy but who knows, it may be a blast!

My new project is FullHeartEmptyNest.com. I guess the name kinda speaks for itself. In this new blog, I’m going to be talking about all things empty nest related. Faith, marriage, adult kids, grandbabies, and more. If you happen to be an empty nester, or you’re approaching that season of life, I’d love for you to join me over there too! It’ll be nice to spend time on something other than our illnesses, right?!?!

I’ll still be writing here. You can’t get rid of me that easy. I just think this new outlet will bring a bit of balance to my life that’s been missing. The preparation I’ve been doing for Full Heart Empty Nest has rekindled my creativity and I have some awesome things in the works for this blog too!

So that’s what I’ve been up to and why I’ve been a bit quiet. Self-care isn’t a luxury my friends, it’s a necessity! And it might be exactly what you need to get through the difficult times in your life.

What have you been up to? I’d love to hear in the comments below!



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17 thoughts on “When April Showers Of Depression Lead To New Life And New Projects

  1. I too have put myself in what my doctor calls “RECOVERY MODE” it has a very, very long winter. I just couldn’t shake being sick. Dozens of various doctor visits, test after test and found nothing. Grrr, beyond frustrating! Fast forward 6 months, I am driving down the road and suddenly feel what I think is a heart attack. I remember nothing until I wake up in ICU the next morning. I have Walking Pneumonia and pleurisy. They had me on antibiotics for so long it wasn’t caught in the x-rays. TRUST YOUR BODY TO TELL YOU SOMETHING IS WRONG, before its to late. I didn’t listen, I just kept trying to be normal. I am not normal, I am a woman with chronic illnesses and pain. It sucks, but I can do it! Sorry for rambling, God bless you all, have a wonderful warm spring and summer.

  2. Wishing you all the best with your newest blogging venture. I’m sure it will be just as lovely as this one. You are such a wonderful writer. I will be sure to visit with you there! =) Have a lovely weekend. xo

  3. I WAS wondering what happened (as a new blogger AND new to Fibromyalgia). Glad to hear you are o.k., and just taking a much needed respite. Yes, as Brittany says, it is important to have balance.
    I am learning…slowly…that I NEED to rest. When do mothers rest? I AM an empty nester now but have spent my entire life on the go with church and kids. I STILL find it hard to rest for myself. And I don’t even have grandkids! I do have a job, so time off means catching up on things. I’m a bit of a neatnik so I am trying to figure out what’s worse. The “stress” of letting things slide ? or the physical push of getting things done the way I like them?! Like today…I put in some extra hours last week because of a co-worker’s family emergency. Today I am “Fibro-tired” -not regular tired. I HAVE to get groceries and I HAVE to do my laundry, but I WANT/NEED to go back to bed. Grocery shopping means driving 30 min. because we live rural. So I have to get dressed. 🙁 It all sounds tiring. So what’s the answer? I am going to ignore myself and get my stuff done! Who else is going to do it? (And I am not in a position to call peapod. Ha)
    And to Linda Moomey…”Why are you up at 11:30 p.m.? 🙂 That’s not restful! Unless you work 2nd shift.?! Lol. 🙂

    • Rosa, what is your blog? I want to check it out!
      It’s definitely a learning process for sure. If you keep pushing your body will finally make you stop. It always finds a way to get what it needs!

  4. O.K. Maybe not my ENTIRE LIFE. Teehee. I feel silly this morning because I am so tired.
    More coffee please.

  5. I will make sure to follow your new blog as I am an empty nester too. This blog inspired me to start my own blog to process what I have been through in the last (almost) 9 months on top of my Fibro and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I am new to blogging but have always kept a diary or journal ever since I was old enough to write. I would love to have you (all of you) visit over at http://www.myinspiredimperfection.com and God Bless.

  6. You are right when we focus more on resolving our problem, It increases more, so best Idea to keep yourself away from the negative environment.